I’ve started and stopped this first post so many times, I can’t keep count anymore. At the most inopportune times I have come up with what I think is a classic beginning, something that will stick in people’s minds, something that will bring people back to this site, and yet when I’m ready to start typing, poof, it’s nowhere to be found.
I labored over my site name for a month, but I think that was just an excuse to prevent me from starting. I started typing this without a name for my site, but as I wrote it became clear to me ” A new Road to Travel”. I was at first thinking this would be more like a travel log of the places and sites that my husband and I will be seeing, but the more that I have thought about this, I want this to be more. So let me step back, explain why I have started this site and what I hope to share with others, and others share with me.
I’m in my mid-fifties and am embarking on a new direction in life. I am married to a wonderful man and he has been retired now for 8 years. I am quite a few years younger than he is so I continued to work, basically for the same reason most people work, because of finances. Of course it would have been nice to stay home and enjoy the last 8 years with him, but life doesn’t work that way. But we have worked hard, were diligent in saving and we have decided that now is the time for us to take that leap of faith. I will be quitting my job on 8/31. I will be leaving the workforce after 34 years. Of those 34 years, I have been off only 3 months of my adult life, so as 8/31 approaches I’m not sure what to expect. My husband and I have been planning this for some months, and only until this week has it finally hit me that I will be unemployed in 2 weeks, and I did this by choice. Am I nuts! There are days I’m scared to death. What am I doing, why am I doing this, and what was I thinking. I basically don’t know any other way of life then work, and although this is all I have dreamed of for the last 10 years, as it fast approaches my knees are getting weak.
Thank God I have a husband that accepts me for the way I am, because I will tell you one day I’m so excited, I feel like a little kid again. Then the other days I’m moody because I’m scared. What is scary is the lack of a regular paycheck that is deposited into your account every week or other week. Wondering, will we really be financially OK, because all I have seen is the black and white paper copy. Anyone can do a spreadsheet or put something down in writing but to make it real is another. How will we get along with each other? From being with each other a few hours each night and the weekends to 24/7 is a drastic change. He has an 8 year routine that I’m going to be intruding on. And the thoughts just keep coming…….
So one of the reasons I’m writing this is to talk with you about this life transition, a change most of us only get to experience once. I want to do it right and I want to thoroughly enjoy the transition, and the new experiences I have to look forward to. We’re all getting older so it’s not like I’m going to experience this again as we really retire once in our life. Sometime we take on part time jobs, or go back to work in a different field, but the actual retiring from a life career is a once in a lifetime situation. So I want to worry less, have fun, laugh a lot and be happy. This is not an experience only I will be going thru. This has been happening a very long time and will continue to happen for a very long time, so I am guessing that for some people it was the best thing they ever did and for others it has been the worst.
I am interested in what worked in your life when you transitioned to retirement and what didn’t work for you. Everyone’s life is different and we really can’t compare as we are all individuals and we each look at and tackle life in our own way, but we all have to admit although different we have been to that place a few times in our life, “if only I had known this”, of “if only someone told me”. I can’t wait to hear and share those stories.
The other side of this is that we have chosen this time in our life as we are both still healthy and want to travel. I really don’t like the term “bucket list”, but I guess that is what we have. We will be making some road trips in the U.S. and see the country not in the standard hurried 1 or 2 week vacation, driving on Interstates to get somewhere as fast you can, and taking at least half the trip to relax, but instead taking the back roads. We aren’t in a hurry, we have no time limit on our trips, I don’t have a specific time to be back, so who knows, maybe we’ll see the biggest ball of yarn or the biggest totem pole, don’t know, but what I do know, is that if you take the time and talk with people and stop and really look at the sights it’s a big beautiful country and we plan on trying to experience as much of it as we can. So I also hope to provide updates on our travel along with a photo journal as we proceed in whatever direction the roads take us.
Well, this was my first attempt. I promise to get better. I am looking forward to the adventure and hope you will come along with me on my new road I am traveling.